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Chapter Forty-five

August 27, 2019 by Monique

I haven’t been interested in blogging lately. No reason in particular–I just haven’t had much to say.  As this day approached, I felt the urge to write but wasn’t feeling inspired. Birthdays are a time to reflect, and it seems like number forty-five should arrive with a burst of inspiration, but it just wasn’t happening. What’s a princess to do?

Enter the express yoga flow class.

I’ve recently become a fan of meditative and restorative yoga, but with my busy schedule this week, I needed to switch my regular yoga night. Yesterday, I decided to try something that would actually make me sweat, and 45 minutes instead of a full hour seemed enticing. As it turns out, it is possible to both love and hate something simultaneously. The class was deliciously brutal and I’ve been energized ever since! It’s funny how you can feel stuck in one place for so long, and then the slightest change can put you back in the right state of mind.

For me, this past year has been about opening myself up to new experiences, people, places and thoughts, and leaving behind the things that  no longer serve a purpose in my life. I’ve made a conscious effort to do this every day and, not to brag, but your girl is killin‘ it!

Who knew how good life could be after how bad life had been?

Recently, I was asked what, besides my children, is my most prized possession. My answer was freedom and peace. Since choosing to operate in love instead of fear, I have both in abundance and I won’t be letting either go anytime soon.

I woke up this morning feeling extremely grateful that the people who are currently in my life are here out of complete love of and acceptance for me. More importantly, I choose to have each of them in my life and I love them in return. I also wish well anyone that leaves, whether on their own or by invitation.

So today, I have no profound words; just a birthday wish that you, too, will live in abundant freedom and peace, and that happiness meets you at every turn.

Help from above:

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. II Timothy 1:7

No, I have an amazing bestie!

August 27, 2019 by Monique

strength

A guest post by SB Anthony

Earlier this year the Humble Highness (HH) herself wrote me a poem for my birthday. In celebration of hers today, I thought I’d reciprocate. The problem is if I try to write a poem, it would likely turn out to be a dirty limerick so instead I offer this…

There are people in your life that can teach you different things, but it’s up to you to listen and learn. What HH taught me is that real strength is not an accomplishment, it is a practice. She was presented with a life change about a year ago and could have chosen an easier path. She could have ignored her intuition but she knew she deserved more. But more would require strength, endurance,and a lot of perseverance. For her and her son’s long term happiness, she chose the harder path and I have found that I am glad she did.

It is not and has not been easy to watch her on this path. I have learned a tremendous amount about her and about myself and the strength that I need to have to fight for what I want. Bearing witness to her journey and watching her continue to fight has shown me what real strength looks like. So while one of her goals on this path was not necessarily to teach me or anyone else, for that matter, a lesson, she has. So, I thank the HH for choosing the harder path and teaching me what real strength is.

And, because I am who I am. And because it’s not a real birthday without a birthday wish, I have one. But it is not for you, HH. It is for the person that did not recognize your strength, but instead chose to test it. That could not see you for who you are and set you on said path. To that person, I have only one word…

KARMA.

A Birthday Poem for my Best Friend

April 16, 2019 by Monique

I have an amazing bestie!

So good to me is she.

How glad am I that awesome You

Got tangled up with me!

 

I trust you with my secrets.

You’re aware of all my scars.

Few could ever duplicate

The friendship that is ours.

 

You wiped away my bitter tears

When sadness brought me down.

When others turned and walked away

You always stuck around.

 

You’re fiercely protective

And you always have my back.

People dare not mess with me

For fear of your attack.

(‘Cause you’re kind of a maniac.)

 

I could never repay you

For all the things you do;

And in true best friend fashion,

You wouldn’t want me to.

 

On loving life and having fun

We could give a master class.

We’ll cruise through life together—I’ll drive!

You pay for lunch or gas.

 

You do not like attention;

I know this to be true.

But how could I not celebrate

The greatness that is You?

 

I have a phenomenal bestie

If you know her, you’ll agree.

How blessed am I that awesome You

Got tangled up with me!

 

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The Queen holds Court

April 11, 2019 by Monique

Divorce is not for the faint of heart. It is ugly, painful, soul-crushing. Absolutely gut-wrenching. It invokes fear, anxiety, pain, confusion, grief. Getting up to face the day is excruciating and the simplest tasks can seem impossible.

Then, you shift, and things begin to change. You begin to feel resolve, hope, peace, clarity, resurgence, power, determination, self-love. It starts as a spark, then becomes an all-consuming flame and suddenly, you know that this is the beginning of something phenomenal; your new life.

The worst part? Telling people. It’s always awkward and never goes as planned:

Scenario 1:

Me: I’m separated.

Person: I’m sorry.

Me: Yeah, don’t be.

Scenario 2:

Me: We’re no longer together

Person: I’m sorry. (Awkward pause while he/she waits for juicy details or for me to fall apart.)

Me (absolutely not sharing details and not falling apart): Yeah, so…how have you been?

Scenario 3:

Random Male: Hey! How’s your husband?

Me: Ummm…he’s good.

Awkward pause…

Me: We’re not together.

What he’s thinking:  *nothing*

What I’m thinking: Great, now he thinks I’m hitting on him. I need to end this conversation quickly.

So, how do I make this not awkward (for me, not necessarily for you, LOL)? Post it on my blog.

So, there you have it. The official announcement of the demise of my marriage. I read somewhere that instead of asking why something is happening to you, you should instead ask, what is this teaching me? There is always a lesson and I’m learning many as I go. One of my favorites so far? My parents were right–I really can do anything.

Shout out to my family and friends for the love and support; for respecting the fact that this is my story to tell and letting me tell it when I was ready. I love you all royally!

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