The Humble Highness

The Road to Royalty

The Queen holds Court

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Divorce is not for the faint of heart. It is ugly, painful, soul-crushing. Absolutely gut-wrenching. It invokes fear, anxiety, pain, confusion, grief. Getting up to face the day is excruciating and the simplest tasks can seem impossible.

Then, you shift, and things begin to change. You begin to feel resolve, hope, peace, clarity, resurgence, power, determination, self-love. It starts as a spark, then becomes an all-consuming flame and suddenly, you know that this is the beginning of something phenomenal; your new life.

The worst part? Telling people. It’s always awkward and never goes as planned:

Scenario 1:

Me: I’m separated.

Person: I’m sorry.

Me: Yeah, don’t be.

Scenario 2:

Me: We’re no longer together

Person: I’m sorry. (Awkward pause while he/she waits for juicy details or for me to fall apart.)

Me (absolutely not sharing details and not falling apart): Yeah, so…how have you been?

Scenario 3:

Random Male: Hey! How’s your husband?

Me: Ummm…he’s good.

Awkward pause…

Me: We’re not together.

What he’s thinking:  *nothing*

What I’m thinking: Great, now he thinks I’m hitting on him. I need to end this conversation quickly.

So, how do I make this not awkward (for me, not necessarily for you, LOL)? Post it on my blog.

So, there you have it. The official announcement of the demise of my marriage. I read somewhere that instead of asking why something is happening to you, you should instead ask, what is this teaching me? There is always a lesson and I’m learning many as I go. One of my favorites so far? My parents were right–I really can do anything.

Shout out to my family and friends for the love and support; for respecting the fact that this is my story to tell and letting me tell it when I was ready. I love you all royally!

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A Noble Intent

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It just clicked!

We’ve all had that one friend that suddenly figures out the meaning of life and wants to share it with the world. Perhaps this friend struggled through a difficult situation and suddenly had an epiphany. Let’s say she struggled with her weight. Many of us can relate to that. Perhaps this friend struggled for years to get into the mindset to eat properly and exercise. Then one day something clicks and said friend is suddenly killing in the weight loss department! She begins to put herself first, nourish her mind and soul, eat mindfully, and watch her portions. She starts to look and feel better than ever.

You are ecstatic for your friend because you know how she once struggled, and you’re one of her biggest cheerleaders. That is, until the day you join her for lunch and she starts counting your calories. She suggests some lean protein to replace that greasy burger you ordered, and asks the server to bring you a side salad instead of fries. Now, you really love this friend and you’re happy for her success, but you did not sign up for her “Be a Better You Plan”!

You’re annoyed but you know your friend doesn’t mean any harm. She just had a revelation, an “aha” moment, and now that she’s free from her struggle, she wants you to experience that freedom as well. She cares about you and wants you to live your best life alongside her.

Well, I’m that friend.

I’ve had an epiphany. I’ve stopped struggling and am experiencing the most amazing clarity, and as any friend would, I just want the same for you. Some of you will relate easily. Others have been living royally for years and probably wonder what took me so long! Regardless, I’m hoping you’ll humor me and join me for this ride. This blog is an outlet for me to share thoughts and lessons and hope they land in a place where they can do some good.

Along the way, I might count your calories or override your sugary drink order with some no-fat, no-calorie, no-taste water. And just like with your friend, you might be slightly annoyed, but I hope you’ll always know that I want the best for you.