No, I have an amazing bestie!

August 27, 2019 by Monique

A guest post by SB Anthony

Earlier this year the Humble Highness (HH) herself wrote me a poem for my birthday. In celebration of hers today, I thought I’d reciprocate. The problem is if I try to write a poem, it would likely turn out to be a dirty limerick so instead I offer this…

There are people in your life that can teach you different things, but it’s up to you to listen and learn. What HH taught me is that real strength is not an accomplishment, it is a practice. She was presented with a life change about a year ago and could have chosen an easier path. She could have ignored her intuition but she knew she deserved more. But more would require strength, endurance,and a lot of perseverance. For her and her son’s long term happiness, she chose the harder path and I have found that I am glad she did.

It is not and has not been easy to watch her on this path. I have learned a tremendous amount about her and about myself and the strength that I need to have to fight for what I want. Bearing witness to her journey and watching her continue to fight has shown me what real strength looks like. So while one of her goals on this path was not necessarily to teach me or anyone else, for that matter, a lesson, she has. So, I thank the HH for choosing the harder path and teaching me what real strength is.

And, because I am who I am. And because it’s not a real birthday without a birthday wish, I have one. But it is not for you, HH. It is for the person that did not recognize your strength, but instead chose to test it. That could not see you for who you are and set you on said path. To that person, I have only one word…

KARMA.

A Birthday Poem for my Best Friend

April 16, 2019 by Monique

I have an amazing bestie!

So good to me is she.

How glad am I that awesome You

Got tangled up with me!

I trust you with my secrets.

You’re aware of all my scars.

Few could ever duplicate

The friendship that is ours.

You wiped away my bitter tears

When sadness brought me down.

When others turned and walked away

You always stuck around.

You’re fiercely protective

And you always have my back.

People dare not mess with me

For fear of your attack.

(‘Cause you’re kind of a maniac.)

I could never repay you

For all the things you do;

And in true best friend fashion,

You wouldn’t want me to.

On loving life and having fun

We could give a master class.

We’ll cruise through life together—I’ll drive!

You pay for lunch or gas.

You do not like attention;

I know this to be true.

But how could I not celebrate

The greatness that is You?

I have a phenomenal bestie

If you know her, you’ll agree.

How blessed am I that awesome You

Got tangled up with me!

A Noble Intent

November 22, 2018 by Monique

It just clicked!

We’ve all had that one friend that suddenly figures out the meaning of life and wants to share it with the world. Perhaps this friend struggled through a difficult situation and suddenly had an epiphany. Let’s say she struggled with her weight. Many of us can relate to that. Perhaps this friend struggled for years to get into the mindset to eat properly and exercise. Then one day something clicks and said friend is suddenly killing in the weight loss department! She begins to put herself first, nourish her mind and soul, eat mindfully, and watch her portions. She starts to look and feel better than ever.

You are ecstatic for your friend because you know how she once struggled, and you’re one of her biggest cheerleaders. That is, until the day you join her for lunch and she starts counting your calories. She suggests some lean protein to replace that greasy burger you ordered, and asks the server to bring you a side salad instead of fries. Now, you really love this friend and you’re happy for her success, but you did not sign up for her “Be a Better You Plan”!

You’re annoyed but you know your friend doesn’t mean any harm. She just had a revelation, an “aha” moment, and now that she’s free from her struggle, she wants you to experience that freedom as well. She cares about you and wants you to live your best life alongside her.

Well, I’m that friend.

I’ve had an epiphany. I’ve stopped struggling and am experiencing the most amazing clarity, and as any friend would, I just want the same for you. Some of you will relate easily. Others have been living royally for years and probably wonder what took me so long! Regardless, I’m hoping you’ll humor me and join me for this ride. This blog is an outlet for me to share thoughts and lessons and hope they land in a place where they can do some good.

Along the way, I might count your calories or override your sugary drink order with some no-fat, no-calorie, no-taste water. And just like with your friend, you might be slightly annoyed, but I hope you’ll always know that I want the best for you.